We know all caregivers can experience big feelings when their children are diagnosed with a chronic illness and face complex and ongoing medical needs. As part of coproducing the comprehensive Caregiver Coping Resource, the resource team reached out to caregivers who identified as dads for their insights into caring for a child with Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD) and/or Autoimmune Liver Disease (AILD). In honor of Men's Mental Health Awareness Month, we are highlighting some of those insights - from Chapter 5 of the Caregiver Coping Resource. 

My name is Adrian, and I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease when I was 9 years old. For several months before I was diagnosed, I was slowly losing weight, growing paler, and having intermittent stomach aches. I would be in terrible pain, fall to the floor, and then it would pass almost as quickly as it came on. Neither my parents nor I thought it was anything serious at first. Initially my mom thought maybe I was lactose intolerant, so we cut dairy out for a while, which was a disappointment because my favorite foods were cereal and yogurt. Removing dairy, however, did not help.

The summer of my son’s diagnosis was one our family will never forget. While backpacking in California, my then 16-year-old son developed severe, life-threatening diarrhea. This would ultimately lead to a diagnosis of Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD) and within 18 months my son would have a total colectomy. We ended up at an ImproveCareNow care center - Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta/GI Care for Kids – and the rest is history as they say. Except that “history” has been long, overwhelming, saddening, frustrating, hopeful, and inspiring, full of questions.

Looking back over the journal I kept during my son’s diagnosis, I am reminded of what was missing - information for the caregiver.

Hi, I am Samantha and I have ulcerative colitis. I was diagnosed a little over a year ago and since then I have been trying to find a way to manage my symptoms and live a healthy life. I am looking forward to starting college where I will be studying aviation, which is a huge passion of mine.

My greatest struggle related to my UC is finding ways to not let it affect my daily life.

Hello, I am Caroline! I’m 20 years old and live with a feeding tube. Since I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at the age of 10, my experience with feeding tubes has taken many forms. What can that look like? There are a variety of types of tubes which include nasal and surgically placed tubes, with many different reasons and uses such as nutrition, hydration, medication, or drainage. For me, the process of learning more about feeding tubes with my providers started when I was 12 years old.

This is Tori's story about her son's Very Early Onset Inflammatory Bowel Disease (VEO-IBD) diagnosis at just two years old. It's a story of misdiagnoses, frustrating dismissals, and the eventual discovery of a chronic condition that affects a growing number of very young children. More importantly, it's a story of resilience, hope, and the power of community. Enjoy Tori's powerful #IgniteTalk as she recalls the challenges and triumphs of raising a child with VEO-IBD and discovers how this journey has transformed her family and inspired them to advocate for others.

Be inspired by Tori's #IgniteTalk 🔥

As a public speaker, it can be challenging to embody positivity while talking about such difficult experiences. Leela struck this balance in her Ignite Talk at our Fall 2024 Community Conference; she led us into the darkest moments of her IBD story and then turned on the light. During her recovery from abdominal surgery, when the stress, fear, and pain was palpable and all she wanted to do was cry but couldn't because "if I did, my stomach would feel like lava," Leela's Mom never gave up on her or left her side. In a pivotal moment involving a 🐞 ladybug, Leela felt her Dad's words "This too shall pass..." spring into her mind. Those comforting words woke her up and she was hit with the realization that this was her defining moment; "a moment in your life that you look back on and it fills you with motivation to keep moving forward - a time in your life where you went...yeah, I did that!” 

Be inspired by Leela's #IgniteTalk 🔥

Patient Advisory Council members have been crowdsourcing their wisdom, tips, and tricks about IBD topics that are timely and important to them. Using their insights, they have been developing brief, helpful one-pagers that are then reviewed by various members of the ICN community such as dietitians and psychosocial providers. Take a PAC Moment to check out new patient-developed resources!

by Autumn

When I received a MyChart message from my GI, suggesting we consider changing my Crohn's treatment, it hit me like a bullet straight to the gut. I wasn't expecting it. I did not have any symptoms of a flare yet, but labs and scope biopsies said otherwise. I received that message while waiting for an appointment, just one minute before my doctor came out to get me.

Hi! I am Emma and I want to share the story of my IBD diagnosis because I think it could help others who have less common IBD symptoms and locations of inflammation. It all began when I was a senior in high school. I had this pain in my chest and upper abdomen whenever I ate or drank so I decided to go to the doctor.